So in love!! Really?

So today let's go into the boundless realms of the imagination...actually, let's imagine something quite mundane. So, suppose I'm a guy. And I'm in love. Hmm..mundane enough? Sure. There are lots of guys, many of them are in love, and many more are thoroughly convinced that they love. And I'm one of them, for now. And who is it that provokes emotions in the region encased by my ribcage? Well, a woman (coz this is a mundane imagining) who sets my soul on fire, brings light into my otherwise illumination-deprived life etc. So far so good. Ok, now let's tweak the story a little bit.

Suppose she doesn't love me. She also quite candidly admits to this little fact. So there's no devilish subterfuge etc. Its all out in the open and I think, "Atleast she's honest", and I love her a little bit more. After all, it is my prerogative as to whether i keep bestowing my emotions on her. So what's the point of all this pap, you ask. Hold on, the tweaking process is still on.

Now this woman sees nothing wrong in making me the on/off centre of her life, depending on the availability of substitutes. What this entails is that I have to always be there for her in whichever manner she fancies her need to be. I listen, I advise, I help, I act as her sounding board, I become her public relations officer, and I love and I love, love and love some more. In the process, I occupy various positions in her life: carpenter, plumber, odd jobs man, dustbin, pen paper and all other manner of stuff. Its still all ok, coz my love makes me want to give of myself, whatever I can, to her. I don't stoop to think of whether she will ever consent to being a dustbin if I happen to need one. Love doesn't lend itself easily to such selfish speculations. But one day, she stops needing me, coz the aforementioned substitutes make their presence felt. It hurts a little bit, and then a bit more. I think to myself that maybe its a good thing, maybe now I'll have time for my life. The week after that, she decides that she can't do without me, although she still is very clear about not loving me. I happily go back to playing a multidimensional helix of roles on her life. But this in-out process then starts happening regularly, like a joke that's so hilarious that God keeps repeating it periodically coz it just never gets old.

Then my other friends start telling me that I should move on, that she's using me etc. And I do see the point of it all, but how do I move on when i know how devastated she'll be when she finds out? Somewhere in the back of mind is the niggling thought that maybe she won't be so devastated, but I brush it aside, and i agonize everyday, a little bit more. So in this imagining, which may not be entirely fictitious, my central problem is why nice people like me invariably end up loving not-so nice people with few compunctions like her, when there are so many nice, perfectly lovable, caring people in this world. Why don't I stop being there for her, even though, clearly, she's the user and I'm the loser here? Why must I be such a fool for that brat? Why must I love the wretch who makes me so wretched? The answer, of course, is that I cannot blame stupidity or a lack of sense which is typical of humanity. The problem is that day after day, breath after endless breath, I make a choice: the choice to be stupid, to give myself to one who doesn't deserve me by a long shot. And will I stop, you ask? What are you, stupid or something?

Comments

Skylight said…
OH MY GOD, THAT WAS JUST PERFECT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

and yes, Rollicking is the word!!This is the dope! This is the stuff we wanted you in blogdom for!
YAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!
:D
Anonymous said…
uffffffff...go attend your ir classes!!!
heh? ok said…
yay yay!!!
Anonymous said…
Well put it in this way that its not an imagination it’s a fact, a truth, but I’m still wondering how come a girl has imagined this…excellent presentation (applauds to u for this)…even I think the same even knowing that we( I mean to say guys) are not getting anything from it y we still continue…maybe with a hope..prolly we think that one day, she will and always waiting when that ‘one day’ will come…i donnt know whether it is stupidity or not..
heh? ok said…
atleast it is some form of denial that uses stupidity as its operating mechanism...i mean, if she needs you that much, can she really not love you? maybe she does, unconsciously, at some level, just a teensy bit. the truth is, she doesn't. there ARE no levels. (oh, thankee for the applause)
Reej said…
sangy u r sooo dooomed to be a writer.. i am not only in splits am also quite impressed with your insights. stupidity is correct. soon however it starts to share a border with insanity.
Anonymous said…
i wish i could say something but you leave me spechless :-)
heh? ok said…
@reej and akhila
thankee!! i've had soooo much fun writing this..
Anonymous said…
aah.. nin.. i see ur point.. wherez tht sucker?? did HE read it??

btw sangy.. love's fuckin weird.. its one thng tht really kills the sanity within u :P
heh? ok said…
@sun
it was after the sucker read it that the wind went out of my sails...i'm too empathetic at times. and yeah, sanity is the first casualty in love, but if it weren't, even love would become as boring as everything else..
Anonymous said…
loves unproductive anyway.. so boring.. interesting.. fuckin waste o time :P
Anonymous said…
loves unproductive anyway.. so boring.. interesting.. fuckin waste o time :P
heh? ok said…
hmmm...i see you aren't too optimistic about the uplifting powers of love...hehehe
Anonymous said…
Awesome Stuff!! How do i get in touch with u .. Wana personally congratulate u..really amazing..
heh? ok said…
@ anon
whoa! never been called awesome before. hehe. nice change. anyway, you can keep in touch with me through my blog. that's all i can afford for anonymous folks right now
raghu said…
**Love doesn't lend itself easily to such selfish speculations**
wat rubbish.. love is soooo selfish!
neway.. not fair!
id give myself up 2 dat gal cos i love her.. so she uses me scrws me does nethin 2 me..not my prob.. i do it cos i love her..not cos she need me..its got nothin 2 do wid her at all!
my love!
n ya.. id hav prolly done dis only.. but only thing i wunt feel hurt..i almost nvr feel hurt cos i xpect it coming frm her all the time.. so its kinda easy nw.. once i xpect my feelings.. i hardly feel nethin..
so.. ya im kinda doin dis nw.. lol.. n it happens..she gets angry one day..pissed the other.. but den in the end i keep 4givin n 4gettin.. u noe cos i nvr understood the wrd "use" n i hope i nvr do..its jus irritatin 2 noe sum1 uses u.. :S

**After all, it is my prerogative as to whether i keep bestowing my emotions on her**
c u urself say loves my prerogative.. :S.. so its abou me.. hardly abou her.. so ill kep lovin or watver.. she shud b happy 4 the sole reason dat i feel happy ve shes happy.. the day i cease 2 care abou dat ill stop lovin her
Anonymous said…
one question tho! what happens to the dustbin in the end?? i'm curious about that part, IF there is any!

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